by Jocelyn Paige Kelly
What's the value in having both a firm and soft goal? 

Being too firm in our goals sets us up for failure, but a firm goal gives us a sense of security and satisfaction because it has a solid foundation. It gives us something tangible and that's what most of us look for when setting goals: a tangible result.

But, often times the process of reaching our goal changes us to the point where our goal has actually shifted to something else. Firm goals are necessary to get us on the road, but we need to be flexible and open to changing our plans because it's really the soft goals that will lead us to our final destination.

This is why it's good to also have a soft goal. Soft goals are emotional. They are a feeling, a state of mind, and reaching that feeling can give us the satisfaction we're looking for in life. Soft goals are made from meaning and purpose. They are the heart and soul of why we do what we do. And it's really the soft goal unspoken that inspires us to create firm goals. Isn't that ironic?

How often have you heard people say that halfway through some plan that they felt it wasn't working for them? Maybe they felt dissatisfied. Maybe they felt unhappy. This is because their unspoken soft goal wasn't achieved and this is why it's important to consider what your soft goal is when setting out to do anything. Your soft goal is your motivation, your enthusiasm. 

Your soft goal is your end game.

People are uncomfortable with the idea of soft goals sometimes because they force you to face your uncertainty. They force you to face your vulnerability. They force you to accept that change is an integral part of goal setting.

If we don't adapt, we lose confidence. This is what happens when we get stuck. We become attached to our goal and lose sight of what's really important. We become disappointed, detached, and we don't move forward. 

Mistakes help us build confidence and may lead us to form new goals. Possibly and often likely, better ones. Ones that are in alignment with our soft goals.

How do we create a plan for our goals that are both firm and soft?

We aim for a goal that's somewhere right in the middle. Something that gives you the discipline and enthusiasm you need to accomplish what you desire.

Give yourself a solid foundation. This is where your firmness should be : in your roots.

Adapt to mistakes. Learn from mistakes. Discover alternative goals from your mistakes that are in alignment with your soft goal.

Question your motives and your intent.  Do this when you feel unnerved. If something unnerves you, it can be a sign that you're off track with your values or where you're going. This is our intuition sending us an alarm message.

Know when to compromise.

Know when to say no.

by Jocelyn Paige Kelly
How can hope help us be more creative?

Let's look at the story of Pandora's Box.

Hope is what keeps us going when all the evils are let out into the world. Metaphorically, we can view the box as a metaphor for our own mind and the evils as our thoughts that hold us back and keep us from being present in our daily lives.

Hope is what pushes us forward, motivates us and soothes us when our lives feel overwhelming and dark. Hope brings us out of the darkness and into the light and hope is there when we feel there is no light.

Hope is vital for every creative person because it is the one thing needed to help you move away from a creative block.

How do we find hope when hope feels lost?

Look for hope in other places.
Ask others where they've found hope.
Keep a gratitude or appreciation journal.

Look into a child's eyes.

To use hope as a creative tool is to find that part of yourself that's sacred, raw and vulnerable. Hope heals. It is the best therapy, the best way to connect. 

And it is vital.

So, think of that one moment. That one defining moment that you had hope, felt hope, knew hope was real. Hold onto it. That's your gold mine of creativity. Let that hope fuel you. 

Let that hope fuel you because that hope belongs to you.

by Jocelyn Paige Kelly
When is it time to let go? Start over and move onto something different? Or perhaps revisit an old project to begin anew?

There's really no way of knowing. In this instance it's more a matter of doing rather than being. When our energies become low and we become frustrated and need to walk away for awhile, it's hard to really truly know if it's meant to be temporary or for good.

These are questions and anxieties that fuel every creative endeavor. They come and go at those trying moments where our faith in our abilities and our vision are tested. They also come to us when tragedy strikes us and our creative energies are shifted from thriving to surviving.

The best way to rebirth an old project is to first cultivate the skill of deep listening. It is when we deeply listen that we can begin to move past what's been holding us back. It is when we deeply listen that we begin to recover and forgive. It is when we deeply listen that our compassion and our empathy give us the wisdom to move forward in our lives.

The next step is to add the appreciation process to our way of thinking. Developed by the US military to aid in critical thinking skills, the appreciation process helps us to create forward momentum in our choices in the hopes of making that creative leap to a useful decision. 

Adding zeal next will help you in maintaining the momentum required for rebirth. Every endeavor of reinvention needs the power of zeal.

But, what's the most essential ingredient?


We need rituals to establish habits and discipline. On those days when we don't feel we have any zeal, when we have trouble listening and can't appreciate the questions we need to ask ourselves, an established ritual will give us the strength to push forward. 

Are you ready to push forward? 





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